Where Grief Lives
A Body Awareness Exercise
Leading isn’t just about pushing forward. Sometimes, it means holding space for the difficult emotions that come with change and loss. As leaders, we often carry grief that goes unspoken. You might even feel the need to “keep it together” for your team, to be a steady presence. But real leadership includes honoring the full range of what you feel.
Grief is part of the journey and it deserves space.
This simple body awareness exercise will help you tune in to where grief lives in your body. It’s a way to notice, to breathe, and to gently let go. If you’d like extra support, listen to my guided meditation, "The Ocean of Grief," where you’ll be invited to release grief into the comforting embrace of Yemaya, the mother of the sea. Together, these practices offer a way to lead from a place of honesty and self-compassion.
Body Awareness Exercise: Finding Where Grief Lives
Get Comfortable
Find a quiet spot to sit or lie down. Take a few deep breaths, letting yourself settle. Remind yourself that this time is just for you. No need to hold it all together right now.Breathe Deeply
Place a hand on your chest and another on your belly. Breathe deeply, feeling your chest and belly rise. With each exhale, let go of a little tension. Allow yourself to soften.Scan Your Body
Start at the top of your head and slowly move down. Notice any areas that feel tight, heavy, or tense. Don’t try to change anything—just observe. Let your body tell you where it’s holding grief.Notice Where Grief Might Be Hiding
When you find a spot that feels heavy or tender, pause. It might be a weight in your chest, a knot in your stomach, or tightness in your shoulders. Breathe gently into that place, allowing it to just be.Breathe Into the Pain
Imagine your breath as a warm light, softening that area. Let each inhale wrap around the tension, and each exhale release a little of it. Give yourself permission to feel what comes up, without judgment.Reflect as a Leader
Think about what this grief might be connected to. Maybe it’s a project or dream you had to let go of, or the weight of a decision you had to make. Recognize that this grief is part of your journey as a leader—a sign of how deeply you care.Close with Gratitude
When you’re ready, place a hand over your heart. Thank your body for carrying you through both the good and the hard times. Acknowledge the strength it takes to feel this grief and to keep showing up. Take a final deep breath, feeling grounded and whole.
Grief in leadership isn’t often talked about, but it’s real. When you make space to feel and process grief, you become a more present and compassionate leader. You’re taking care of yourself, which allows you to better take care of others.